Push pull strategy dating
Without going into very personal details, he was pretty darn certain about this decision and only wanted any debate to be who was getting what and how to do it as quickly as possible so that we could go our ways.
We had no children at that time, but I was crushed, shocked, and despondent all the same.
After I got over my shock and anger, I was floored, not only at his behavior, which came out of left field, but how sharp a contrast this was to how we used to be. All we needed was for him to just change his mind with this ridiculous break up.
It sort of teaches you how to turn the tables, get on “their side” as part of strategy and even the playing field. At that time, divorce was the worst possible outcome, but I was tired of feeling so out of control.I mentioned the stack of albums I’d dusted off and that I was meeting up with old friends of ours who were coming up next week, and how good it had been to see them.There was dead silence on the other end of the phone.Then, a colder tone replaced the earlier one and my husband (or ex, I should say) excused himself. He didn’t like when I pursued him, but now he didn’t seem to like that I wasn’t.I grabbed the book to see if I was doing something wrong, but according to it, I was sort of on the right track, although my method and my tone were not as lighthearted, matter of fact, or open as the book said I should be.